Y’all really don’t want that early financial setback in your life journey. And I say this loving all mines with everything I have to give, 18-32 could’ve been a lot easier if I was a step back shooter.
alrightandsit on
Other than financial ability to care for a child, I feel like having a child in the 30s better because that’s more time for people to plan out their lives and (hopefully) be more emotionally mature.
Nesnosna on
The blind leading the blind
AlphaGodEJ on
nah im good
ThatdesertDude on
It was difficult at 21 when I had my first two sons, but you grow with them(if you’re active). But as we got older, I realized it was the best move for us both. In my early 40s, we can hang out, and I don’t have to chase around a toddler, and I can guide them through life as I move through it myself.
nicasserole97 on
Chase a toddler in your late 30’s 40’s and your knees & ankles will thank for it 😂😂😂
manzo559 on
35 here with no kids, I’m going to end up being like Mike Epps aren’t I?
IncomeResponsible764 on
Dude aged like milk
LeoTheRadiant on
On the one hand, I had my first kid at 32 and I’m very sore. On the other, I’m financially stable enough to have a kid. I wasn’t ready to be an adult at 18-25. It would have been ruinous.
There’s no scenario where kids don’t fundamentally alter your life. You just gotta do the little ones a favor and have them when you’re ready. And you may never be ready. And that’s ok too.
Bunnnnii on
19? Gtfo this is a big part of the problem. That’s shitty “advice”.
Electrical-Set2765 on
Easier on the body. Worse for the well being of the children. Props to people who are the exception, but I’ve seen way too many bad parents having kids way too young to think it’s a good idea to go younger rather than older with it.
j-endsville on
I’m 50. Never wanted kids, never had any. Was careful not to have any. You ain’t gotta breed.
solitarium on
That’s about to me me in 3 years, lol. Had my first at 24, second at 30, and my last this year at 40.
BombasticSimpleton on
I’m on the older side of being a dad (I acquired a step-daughter, now an adult, whom I adore, but my “first” was born when I was 37, and the next at 41).
There are times I regret not having them earlier (late 20s). But I also recognize that I missed out on a lot of stuff with my step-daughter because I was constantly working. And I’ve apologized to her for that, because I really feel like I’ve missed out; she was an awesome kid and she’s an awesome young adult. But I was still setting up the foundations for my family’s stability and development, and she paid that price, unfortunately.
With my others, I’m in a very different position. I make my own schedule, so I can cater to picking them up and dropping them off from school. Weekend roadtrips and activities are a pretty regular thing. I am in a position in my life where they see something fun like a concert or a con or something, and we just…go. Enrichment activities are a big deal. By that same token, a few years back when they were still fairly small, we did a 3 day/40 mile trail packing trip in the SW desert and I had to carry their gear and mine – I definitely felt the difference from when I was in my 20s.
But a parent at 19-25? I couldn’t have done none of that, let alone work the 3 jobs and putting myself through school on top of parenting.
It’s a mixed bag; there’s pros and cons to both sides of the discussion. But I’m pretty happy where we are in life. (Ask me later after a 20 mile hike with them and I may say something different.)
SignStreet2554 on
My bro and his wife took that advice they now go on more mommy & daddy vacations than anyone I’ve known while we watch their kids….don’t listen to these people!!!!
DifficultyRich3966 on
Yeah fuck that but we need to get back to being family oriented osrs
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19????
Advice on how to ruin your 20s
Y’all really don’t want that early financial setback in your life journey. And I say this loving all mines with everything I have to give, 18-32 could’ve been a lot easier if I was a step back shooter.
Other than financial ability to care for a child, I feel like having a child in the 30s better because that’s more time for people to plan out their lives and (hopefully) be more emotionally mature.
The blind leading the blind
nah im good
It was difficult at 21 when I had my first two sons, but you grow with them(if you’re active). But as we got older, I realized it was the best move for us both. In my early 40s, we can hang out, and I don’t have to chase around a toddler, and I can guide them through life as I move through it myself.
Chase a toddler in your late 30’s 40’s and your knees & ankles will thank for it 😂😂😂
35 here with no kids, I’m going to end up being like Mike Epps aren’t I?
Dude aged like milk
On the one hand, I had my first kid at 32 and I’m very sore. On the other, I’m financially stable enough to have a kid. I wasn’t ready to be an adult at 18-25. It would have been ruinous.
There’s no scenario where kids don’t fundamentally alter your life. You just gotta do the little ones a favor and have them when you’re ready. And you may never be ready. And that’s ok too.
19? Gtfo this is a big part of the problem. That’s shitty “advice”.
Easier on the body. Worse for the well being of the children. Props to people who are the exception, but I’ve seen way too many bad parents having kids way too young to think it’s a good idea to go younger rather than older with it.
I’m 50. Never wanted kids, never had any. Was careful not to have any. You ain’t gotta breed.
That’s about to me me in 3 years, lol. Had my first at 24, second at 30, and my last this year at 40.
I’m on the older side of being a dad (I acquired a step-daughter, now an adult, whom I adore, but my “first” was born when I was 37, and the next at 41).
There are times I regret not having them earlier (late 20s). But I also recognize that I missed out on a lot of stuff with my step-daughter because I was constantly working. And I’ve apologized to her for that, because I really feel like I’ve missed out; she was an awesome kid and she’s an awesome young adult. But I was still setting up the foundations for my family’s stability and development, and she paid that price, unfortunately.
With my others, I’m in a very different position. I make my own schedule, so I can cater to picking them up and dropping them off from school. Weekend roadtrips and activities are a pretty regular thing. I am in a position in my life where they see something fun like a concert or a con or something, and we just…go. Enrichment activities are a big deal. By that same token, a few years back when they were still fairly small, we did a 3 day/40 mile trail packing trip in the SW desert and I had to carry their gear and mine – I definitely felt the difference from when I was in my 20s.
But a parent at 19-25? I couldn’t have done none of that, let alone work the 3 jobs and putting myself through school on top of parenting.
It’s a mixed bag; there’s pros and cons to both sides of the discussion. But I’m pretty happy where we are in life. (Ask me later after a 20 mile hike with them and I may say something different.)
My bro and his wife took that advice they now go on more mommy & daddy vacations than anyone I’ve known while we watch their kids….don’t listen to these people!!!!
Yeah fuck that but we need to get back to being family oriented osrs