Life is so exhausting, you'll lose people, get broken up with, be ignored and taken for granted. Dreams help us put the pain of it all into context, they give us purpose and drive – and in order to progress towards them you need to be disciplined, motivated and resilient.
Well… I'm not. And you know what? It's not that bad. In fact, my life is way better now that I've stopped trying to be something I'm not.
I think I've always known I'm lazy, I take the shortcut if I can, I put things off and a lot of the time I give up. I used to think that this had to CHANGE before I could start making my life better, I thought I had to NOT BE LAZY ANYMORE, I thought I had to be someone else.
I'm starting to accept this about myself and recently I've been thinking about the benefits of it – obviously there are downsides, everyday there's a new video every day reminding me. But if I'm accepting myself being lazy, what are the benefits? I can either try and be something I'm not, or I can at least have a BALANCED perspective about how I behave in this world – Everyone always wants to talk about why its good to be good, and why it's bad to be bad – I feel like people are forgetting to talk about the rest of it.
Yes I'm lazy, and yes I still make progress. I’ve learned that I don’t need to be something I'm not in order to start taking a little more control over my life and being proud of my actions. Sure, I have goals and things I want to achieve, but can I work towards them without burning out or hating life? Honestly, when I think about the cost I'm willing to pay to achieve them, I'm sure as sh*t not paying with my happiness anymore, no way. If I'm only able to give 50%, or even 20%. That’s fine, That's good, That's me.
Being lazy means giving up sometimes, but the way I see it is that I’m pacing myself – not necessarily with the goal itself, but my life, my overall happiness. I want to enjoy life, not constantly stress about not doing “enough” just to create motivation.
I've started making progress in areas important to me, I quit my job to search for something more relaxed, I go to the gym regularly to look after myself and sometimes when I want to order food, I'll cook instead and give myself a hi-five. I'm not saying lose hope for yourself, or don't try to work towards things you really care about, but there’s balance. Even with these new improvements, I've slacked off and gave up, but that spares my sanity – pushing past your limit through times like that will burn you out and it will cost you joy. You don't have to be perfect all the time, you don't even have to be good.
So, here I am telling you, giving you permission. You're allowed to be lazy. Be kind to yourself, trust yourself, you don't need to change who you are in order to make your life better.
by SolomonDarbey