We don’t have our self destructive habits because we are bad people, we have them because once they actually was providing us something we needed. (Even if very short lived)A sense of relief, a kick, a soothing sensation, feeling alive, escaping difficult emotions, wanting a break, being in something familiar and comforting.
We all deserve that, a break, a comfort, something familiar, something that helps us face the day. It’s to put that in something new that’s so scary, because it demands us to believe in ourselves enough to start.
Then further enough to keep doing it over and over til it feels like the most natural habit ever, and this takes time. And it demands of us to face setbacks with compassion and forgiveness every time. Over and over.
The better we get at forgiving ourselves the faster we’re back in the game. This is a practice that we study at the same time as we start a new habit/ make a change. And without it you will face a setback, punish and shame and hate yourself for it, and you might never wanna touch that healthy change again. Because you stopped giving yourself new chances.
Failure is not failure. Failure is feedback. Take the lesson with a self care approach. Hold it in your hands. And forgive yourself.
by Queen-of-meme